Check Mate you have just highlighted why this 'relationship' has been strained from day one. As you seemed to omit any facts from your post I'll do some of the filling in for everyone.
Start of Wonka/Rhino relations - You guys approach us for an alliance. No prechecking or get to know you, just you wanting to ally. It then comes out that your sole purpose for this 'alliance' was that you wanted us to merge into you. Again, without much talk or thought just, 'we want you to merge and if that's not going to happen then there is no point having any diplo', to which I replied:-
[spoil][2/18/2012 1:10:18 PM] Mr J: got a verdict?
[2/18/2012 1:15:08 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: i spoke with your co quite a bit last night, he knows where I stand and will be able to fill you in
[2/18/2012 1:15:37 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: he said he was gunna talk to you and get back to us so best to chat to him first
[2/18/2012 1:15:51 PM] Mr J: well hes been on ages with me but hasnt said anything yet
[2/18/2012 1:15:58 PM] Mr J: Could you fill me in
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[2/18/2012 1:17:45 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: we are not interested in a merge into you, i would consider some of rhino if you wanted to apply but the majority wouldn't get in, you guys would have to cut a lot of fat anyway if you wanted us in, so it's honestly way to early to be talking about mergers, i'm not even sure i want an alliance as you are yet to bring anything to the table.
[2/17/2012 10:56:16 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: come up with a decent proposal and take it seriously and i'd be willing to revisit.
[2/17/2012 11:05:57 PM] o.0:
[2/17/2012 11:06:07 PM] o.0: thnx for that
[2/17/2012 11:06:23 PM] o.0: our fat will soon be sucked out
[2/17/2012 11:08:51 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: sounds good, just fyi I'm very weary of jumping into any formal alliance with out a lot of thought and planning and some relationship building first, and i'm not a fan of mergers most of the time as they tend to never work and are rushed into with out any real planning.
[2/17/2012 11:09:38 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: all my guys have been around for a long time, won worlds, hit end game, had rank one accounts, we've been around long enough to know what works and what doesnt
[2/17/2012 11:09:40 PM] o.0: yeap i know
im not much of a fan of mergers
[2/17/2012 11:10:06 PM] o.0: but po was thinking about the future of both of our tribes
[2/17/2012 11:11:53 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: that shows a lack of foresight, things change all the time, you can't plan stuff like that and just assume it will work out.
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[2/18/2012 1:18:11 PM] Paul & Rach TW's T.S.M: that's the convo
[2/18/2012 1:19:05 PM] Mr J: k
[2/18/2012 1:19:39 PM] Mr J: Just and FYI this is my first time leading a top 20 tribe so im not the greatest leader ever just yet
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At this point you promptly removed me from your skype contacts and your co had to back track and pick up your mess. You then started spamming my inbox with conversations between you and another Rhino member having a laugh at Wonka, I assume to try and lighten things up and smooth things over. I won't bore everyone with the mails.
Wonka/Rhino NAP - We eventually settled on an NAP, which was honestly one of the worst relationships I've had with another tribe. Fads was constantly having to make excuses for your aggressive and brash behavior, saying that it was just the way you are, blah blah blah. The entire time it seemed like you were just sulking because you didn't get your own way when we rejected your rubbish merger proposal.
Lead up/reasons for the war - Next thing you start recruiting food in our area, seemingly recruiting meat shields in between us. Either that or your recruitment standards are even worse then I thought. You were also informed of the fact that you had cheaters in your tribe (multi-accounters) and did nothing about it. (We won't show proof on externals due to the rules, but we have it). All that, coupled with giving us the run around over cross nobles, hiding behind the wording of nap agreements rather then acting with integrity, and just being generally unpleasant to deal with we; started preping for war.
This war was brought about by one thing only, your lack of character/morals and inability to deal with people in an appropriate manner.
Yes, we would have honored the agreement, we don't need the element of 'surprise'. But please just keep proving this following statement for us over and over again, as it's fun to watch you keep digging your own grave.
Mr J: Just and FYI this is my first time leading a top 20 tribe so im not the greatest leader ever just yet
Couldn't have put it better myself.