"Win" can be defined as many things.
In my book winning is:
Gaining new villages. Big or small, enemy, barb or innacitve.
Seeing the daily enoblements and VVV at the top of them 9.5 days out of 10.
Watching ideas go from concepts, to operations to newly gained territory.
A decent activity level from most players.
Seeing cooperation for the better of the tribe and less of the "Me, me, me" players.
If you call "bragging you have learned so much in the last year", stacking 1 village and have a Co-player a win, then good for you. Go buy a trophy and put it on the shelf. When VVV refers to a win, we are talking of the tribe, not individuals. Too bad you don't seem to be able to do the same in SCI. We work for collective goals more so than individual. It is what playing as a team means. I thought jumping to Pks would have taught you that?
Your time is coming. It will be of VVVs choosing when that is, not yours. Trying to goad, boast or quite frankly be as annoying as a slow 6 year year old will do nothing to save you. Do your best to get SCI to stack you now, it may take them awhile for them to open your mails. They seem to do little for their northern brethren less kick once they realize they have lost 75% of their villages.
Good luck, and remember, winning or losing a skirmish does not mean the same of the war. You will be a target regardless of the tribe you reside in.